"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Should we really care that much about women?

David Zappa

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Hi guys,

I've come to the realisation that so many men put women on a pedestal and forget about their own goals. In their relationships with women, they forget about their own ambitions, desires, and careers. Never put women ahead of yourself!

Being in a relationship benefits women more! That's why women hate men who say they never want to marry or be in a serious relationship. What I'm trying to get at is this: the benefits conferred to women in a relationship are far greater than that which will be conferred to a man. At the same time, men bear all the risk. Thus, never let yourself get tied down. Only make the girl feel like that you care for her.

Women should be secondary. My own goals are #1, and I won't let anybody get in my way. That, in my humble opnion, is the correct attitude to have - unless women are your only goals in life.

I've told women that my career is #1 and they absolutely hate it. But I get the hunch that they feel sexually attracted to a man who views them as secondary in his own life.

Modern women are too self-centred and childish to be taken seriously. Don't hate them. Forgive them for their ways. But don't take them seriously! Just have fun and date a few at the same time.

Would like to hear your thoughts

P.S I was having a conversation with a female friend in a cab ride home and she said that women a lot of sexual power for the reason that 'it takes two to tango'. I replied by saying that one individuals women's power over me will be greatly reduced if I date 5 women at the same time. She hated my come-back. I guess it hit a nerve.

Take the power back, guys!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Iceberg

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David Zappa said:
Women should be secondary. My own goals are #1, and I won't let anybody get in my way. That, in my humble opnion, is the correct attitude to have - unless women are your only goals in life.
Totally agree. I see too many guys on here focused on finding some magical LTR that will "complete them".

Focus on becoming the man you want to be, think of women as entertainment, and one day your precious LTR just might fall into your lap.

Make women and LTRs the priority, and you'll end up settling for the first thing that comes along. Or worse, you'll drive yourself crazy every time relationship doesn't work out.


I've told women that my career is #1 and they absolutely hate it. But I get the hunch that they feel sexually attracted to a man who views them as secondary in his own life.
I agree. They love it.

Just like you'll see some AFC guys chasing a woman who dangles sex in front of them like a carrot, you'll find women who chase a guy who dangles love in front of them.

They'll never admit it, but they want to compete for your love. Once they have it, it becomes boring, like an old toy.


Modern women are too self-centred and childish to be taken seriously. Don't hate them. Forgive them for their ways. But don't take them seriously! Just have fun and date a few at the same time.
Love it.

If guys would view dating this way, this site would have less venting about "Why doesn't she call me?" and more inspirational topics like, "How do I start my business?" or "Help me plan a backpacking adventure."

If I'm dating Girl X, and she doesn't call me, then I'll either go to Girl Y, or I'll take a break from girls all together and focus on my hobbies, work, or anything else. There are too many great things to think about in the world to be getting all teary-eyed over girls.
 
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There isn't much I can expand on what you have typed David and the same goes for Iceberg, you've both really hit the nail on the head.
 

pdx1138

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Agreed. When you put all your effort into it, it sucks the life out of you.

You first, them second.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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