"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Should we really care that much about women?

David Zappa

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Hi guys,

I've come to the realisation that so many men put women on a pedestal and forget about their own goals. In their relationships with women, they forget about their own ambitions, desires, and careers. Never put women ahead of yourself!

Being in a relationship benefits women more! That's why women hate men who say they never want to marry or be in a serious relationship. What I'm trying to get at is this: the benefits conferred to women in a relationship are far greater than that which will be conferred to a man. At the same time, men bear all the risk. Thus, never let yourself get tied down. Only make the girl feel like that you care for her.

Women should be secondary. My own goals are #1, and I won't let anybody get in my way. That, in my humble opnion, is the correct attitude to have - unless women are your only goals in life.

I've told women that my career is #1 and they absolutely hate it. But I get the hunch that they feel sexually attracted to a man who views them as secondary in his own life.

Modern women are too self-centred and childish to be taken seriously. Don't hate them. Forgive them for their ways. But don't take them seriously! Just have fun and date a few at the same time.

Would like to hear your thoughts

P.S I was having a conversation with a female friend in a cab ride home and she said that women a lot of sexual power for the reason that 'it takes two to tango'. I replied by saying that one individuals women's power over me will be greatly reduced if I date 5 women at the same time. She hated my come-back. I guess it hit a nerve.

Take the power back, guys!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Iceberg

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David Zappa said:
Women should be secondary. My own goals are #1, and I won't let anybody get in my way. That, in my humble opnion, is the correct attitude to have - unless women are your only goals in life.
Totally agree. I see too many guys on here focused on finding some magical LTR that will "complete them".

Focus on becoming the man you want to be, think of women as entertainment, and one day your precious LTR just might fall into your lap.

Make women and LTRs the priority, and you'll end up settling for the first thing that comes along. Or worse, you'll drive yourself crazy every time relationship doesn't work out.


I've told women that my career is #1 and they absolutely hate it. But I get the hunch that they feel sexually attracted to a man who views them as secondary in his own life.
I agree. They love it.

Just like you'll see some AFC guys chasing a woman who dangles sex in front of them like a carrot, you'll find women who chase a guy who dangles love in front of them.

They'll never admit it, but they want to compete for your love. Once they have it, it becomes boring, like an old toy.


Modern women are too self-centred and childish to be taken seriously. Don't hate them. Forgive them for their ways. But don't take them seriously! Just have fun and date a few at the same time.
Love it.

If guys would view dating this way, this site would have less venting about "Why doesn't she call me?" and more inspirational topics like, "How do I start my business?" or "Help me plan a backpacking adventure."

If I'm dating Girl X, and she doesn't call me, then I'll either go to Girl Y, or I'll take a break from girls all together and focus on my hobbies, work, or anything else. There are too many great things to think about in the world to be getting all teary-eyed over girls.
 
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There isn't much I can expand on what you have typed David and the same goes for Iceberg, you've both really hit the nail on the head.
 

pdx1138

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Agreed. When you put all your effort into it, it sucks the life out of you.

You first, them second.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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