Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
BAAAAHHH *like a sheep*Darth said:Heh. me and my buddies always make fun of men with shaved legs.
So...yeah, I wouldn't do it.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
My Dad used to do competitive cycling and he shaved his legs. Not for aerodynamics but for the fact that it's easier to clean and treat the inevitable cuts and scratches from a fall.Columbia said:I'm a cyclist and I shave my legs. You'll hear a lot of BS about how it's more aerodynamic or whatever, but the truth of the matter is that it just looks better and more intimidating to the competition if you're in really good shape. It may or may not be the same for other sports.
:crackup: Yup I use a trimmer on my legs to to keep them from looking like they belong to a Wookie. I don't shave them smooth though.BluEyes said:So many people are avoiding the question...
or has sasquatch-like hair growth, that shaving your legs is rather pathetic...
Yeah I've heard this too. Again, I never found any truth in it. You don't tend to get cuts per se, but burns (from the friction of rubbing against the ground at speed). If there's enough friction to burn you, then it'll also burn away the hair. I never had a problem cleaning up the mess, even before I shaved.Maxtro said:My Dad used to do competitive cycling and he shaved his legs. Not for aerodynamics but for the fact that it's easier to clean and treat the inevitable cuts and scratches from a fall.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.