She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
BAAAAHHH *like a sheep*Darth said:Heh. me and my buddies always make fun of men with shaved legs.
So...yeah, I wouldn't do it.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
My Dad used to do competitive cycling and he shaved his legs. Not for aerodynamics but for the fact that it's easier to clean and treat the inevitable cuts and scratches from a fall.Columbia said:I'm a cyclist and I shave my legs. You'll hear a lot of BS about how it's more aerodynamic or whatever, but the truth of the matter is that it just looks better and more intimidating to the competition if you're in really good shape. It may or may not be the same for other sports.
:crackup: Yup I use a trimmer on my legs to to keep them from looking like they belong to a Wookie. I don't shave them smooth though.BluEyes said:So many people are avoiding the question...
or has sasquatch-like hair growth, that shaving your legs is rather pathetic...
Yeah I've heard this too. Again, I never found any truth in it. You don't tend to get cuts per se, but burns (from the friction of rubbing against the ground at speed). If there's enough friction to burn you, then it'll also burn away the hair. I never had a problem cleaning up the mess, even before I shaved.Maxtro said:My Dad used to do competitive cycling and he shaved his legs. Not for aerodynamics but for the fact that it's easier to clean and treat the inevitable cuts and scratches from a fall.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.