You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
It's not very accurate ... Plus, it's both stupid and insecure to base your opinion of yourself on a stupid website where people rate your pictures.Originally posted by Eighth Passenger
I recently put two pics onto hotornot.com. They weren't that great in my opinion. But I scored 8.5 for the headshot photo, and 8.8 for the full body pic.
Should I feel good about this? Some people say it's easy to score high on that website.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
This guy hit it right on the nose. I don't think there is a problem with posting your pic on the site, but the best use is so you can find which pic gets the most positive response for posting, trading and/ or if you e-pimp. But if you use the sight to re-assure your ego or think it is an accurate portrayal of how women "rate" you, then you are wrong.Originally posted by Scrumtulescence
No, that site is a horrilbe barometer of attractiveness. I'd say 4/5 people who visit that site just keep clicking the same score to skim the pictures, and people will often vote for themself or get other people to vote for them. Plus, the pose/lighting/facial expression determines the score at least as much as how good you actually look does. It's pointless.