Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
It's not very accurate ... Plus, it's both stupid and insecure to base your opinion of yourself on a stupid website where people rate your pictures.Originally posted by Eighth Passenger
I recently put two pics onto hotornot.com. They weren't that great in my opinion. But I scored 8.5 for the headshot photo, and 8.8 for the full body pic.
Should I feel good about this? Some people say it's easy to score high on that website.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This guy hit it right on the nose. I don't think there is a problem with posting your pic on the site, but the best use is so you can find which pic gets the most positive response for posting, trading and/ or if you e-pimp. But if you use the sight to re-assure your ego or think it is an accurate portrayal of how women "rate" you, then you are wrong.Originally posted by Scrumtulescence
No, that site is a horrilbe barometer of attractiveness. I'd say 4/5 people who visit that site just keep clicking the same score to skim the pictures, and people will often vote for themself or get other people to vote for them. Plus, the pose/lighting/facial expression determines the score at least as much as how good you actually look does. It's pointless.