"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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should i trash the digits?

Chilli_pimp

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here's this situation...
i met a chick in class.. she's a bit older than me, well established (as in, living on her own, owns her own car, etc; with the help of her parents of course) we've been talkin and flirtin throughout the whole semester... neway, ima get to the point:
a week b4 exams, i called her up and had a short and sweet convo, and ended it by asking her if she wanted to chill right after we took our exam... she agreed, and it was on... just to add on, we only have this class once a week, so we never see each other throughout the week..
anyway, i came a lil late to my exams so i had to sit at an open corner of the room... an hour through, she finished, handed her test in, and left the room... i assumed that she was probably waitin for me outside, so i hurried to finish mine. i finished a half hour after her, and when i looked around outside, she was gone... i tried callin her cell, but she wasn't pickin up... so i left a brief voicemail, "hey its 'chillipimp', what happened to you? call me back"
its been 2, almost 3 days... i was thinkin, why should i waste my time tryna get an answer from her... but still, should i try one last time... or should i scrap her number, cuz i left her msg, and she should be gettin back at me...
or am i thinkin too much and find some new meat...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Wiesman44

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Yah, next her. She would have returned your voice message. She obviously got it.
 

Chilli_pimp

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UPDATE...

so its been a week... 2 nite while i was at work, i got a private number on my cell.. it was her... she was acting like everything was cool, asking me if i already registered for my next sem courses... (i saw this as an excuse to call me).. anyway, i asked her about that situation that last week.. she told me she waited, but recieved a call and had to go... i then asked her why she didnt call back; she told me she didnt get the msg.. (my a$$)
anyway, she told me to call her when i go back to school to reregister so we can "chill" afterward... is this girl caving in, or what? how should i approach this
 

xiola

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you should get a gun and fvcking kill yourself, that or join a monestary


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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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