"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Should I Tell A Girl About My Lack of Experience?

Dark Horse

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I'm 22 years old, will be 23 in less than a month. Iv'e never had a girlfriend, never had sex, iv'e never even kissed a girl before. At the rate i'm going, i'll be a virgin when i'm 25. Ima noob.

Would it be a good idea to tell a girl i'm a virgin? How about telling a girl iv'e never kissed or never been in a relationship?

Iv'e really only been on a few dates in my life. Only been on dates with two different girls.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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RangerMIke

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Why would you do that... are you expecting her to layout her entire sexual experience?


Word of advice... always ask yourself if what you are about to say will make you more attractive. If the answer is 'no' than don;t say it.
 

Billtx49

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If you get into a poker game then tell the other players you don’t know crap about the game, who gets played?
Most times it’s better to keep truth concealed until trust is established, and even then it’s not foolproof.
 
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I'm 22 years old, will be 23 in less than a month. Iv'e never had a girlfriend, never had sex, iv'e never even kissed a girl before. At the rate i'm going, i'll be a virgin when i'm 25. Ima noob.

Would it be a good idea to tell a girl i'm a virgin? How about telling a girl iv'e never kissed or never been in a relationship?

Iv'e really only been on a few dates in my life. Only been on dates with two different girls.
You don't necessarily have to tell them that but don't fake it and come off like you have a lot of sexual experience either.

Your decision on whether to tell a girl or not will depend on the girl, the context and your comfort level. If she's also a virgin or has little experience that may be more comfortable for you.

If she's easy she may actually get off on hooking up with a virgin and showing him a few things. A lot of girls dig that.

So, depending on the girl this could actually be a benefit for you.

Just don't overthink the virgin thing and let it freak you out. You're only 22 so it's not like it's abnormal for a guy to be a virgin at that age.
 

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Do not tell her until well after the relationship has been established (whatever your definition of relationship may be)

And, at that point, why say anything?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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zekko

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I like honesty, as a trait. But I see absolutely no upside to letting her know you're a virgin.
 

lizardking82

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You don't need to tell her, she will pick up on it herself. You will be nervous about and even if she's a virgin herself, girls always have a bit more natural knowledge about these things compared to boys.
 

marmel75

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You tell women as little as possible at first. Especially when it could be something they could use to disqualify you.
 

sazc

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You tell women as little as possible at first. Especially when it could be something they could use to disqualify you.
And they will use it to disqualify you. You just don't know enough to know if she will see it as a challenge or a turn off.
Stay quiet
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Bible_Belt

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There are some women out there who would do you just because you are a virgin, but they are all giant wh0res and probably not what you need at this point in your life.
 

skinnyguy

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F no. Tell girls you've banged 100 women and then maybe they will want to talk to you
 
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