"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Should I Tell A Girl About My Lack of Experience?

Dark Horse

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I'm 22 years old, will be 23 in less than a month. Iv'e never had a girlfriend, never had sex, iv'e never even kissed a girl before. At the rate i'm going, i'll be a virgin when i'm 25. Ima noob.

Would it be a good idea to tell a girl i'm a virgin? How about telling a girl iv'e never kissed or never been in a relationship?

Iv'e really only been on a few dates in my life. Only been on dates with two different girls.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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RangerMIke

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Why would you do that... are you expecting her to layout her entire sexual experience?


Word of advice... always ask yourself if what you are about to say will make you more attractive. If the answer is 'no' than don;t say it.
 

Billtx49

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If you get into a poker game then tell the other players you don’t know crap about the game, who gets played?
Most times it’s better to keep truth concealed until trust is established, and even then it’s not foolproof.
 
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I'm 22 years old, will be 23 in less than a month. Iv'e never had a girlfriend, never had sex, iv'e never even kissed a girl before. At the rate i'm going, i'll be a virgin when i'm 25. Ima noob.

Would it be a good idea to tell a girl i'm a virgin? How about telling a girl iv'e never kissed or never been in a relationship?

Iv'e really only been on a few dates in my life. Only been on dates with two different girls.
You don't necessarily have to tell them that but don't fake it and come off like you have a lot of sexual experience either.

Your decision on whether to tell a girl or not will depend on the girl, the context and your comfort level. If she's also a virgin or has little experience that may be more comfortable for you.

If she's easy she may actually get off on hooking up with a virgin and showing him a few things. A lot of girls dig that.

So, depending on the girl this could actually be a benefit for you.

Just don't overthink the virgin thing and let it freak you out. You're only 22 so it's not like it's abnormal for a guy to be a virgin at that age.
 

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Do not tell her until well after the relationship has been established (whatever your definition of relationship may be)

And, at that point, why say anything?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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zekko

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I like honesty, as a trait. But I see absolutely no upside to letting her know you're a virgin.
 

lizardking82

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You don't need to tell her, she will pick up on it herself. You will be nervous about and even if she's a virgin herself, girls always have a bit more natural knowledge about these things compared to boys.
 

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You tell women as little as possible at first. Especially when it could be something they could use to disqualify you.
 

sazc

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You tell women as little as possible at first. Especially when it could be something they could use to disqualify you.
And they will use it to disqualify you. You just don't know enough to know if she will see it as a challenge or a turn off.
Stay quiet
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bible_Belt

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There are some women out there who would do you just because you are a virgin, but they are all giant wh0res and probably not what you need at this point in your life.
 

skinnyguy

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F no. Tell girls you've banged 100 women and then maybe they will want to talk to you
 
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