Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I thought you said you weren't interested in arguing?Indigo said:Dude you're wrong, and you know it... do some research beyond google... google isn't always right, don't be so lazy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Say you're a secular humanist, or a naturalist. Many people will know what you mean, and the ones that don't, well you can have an interesting time explaining it to them.Francisco d'Anconia said:If it's going to cause this much turmoil, you might as well say that you're a Scientologist and piss everyone off.
I guess he lost interest in his original question.Indigo said:HA!
Hey Francisco, I see you live in MPLS... I live in MN, up north for the moment, school...
Any hot places to pick up girls down in the cities?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You're right about that, but the key word there is worry!reset said:Other than that, don't ever do or not do something because you're worried how others will perceive you.
Your folks sent you to school up in Moorehead to try to keep you out of trouble didn't they? Well, we'll fix that.Indigo said:HA!
Hey Francisco, I see you live in MPLS... I live in MN, up north for the moment, school...
Any hot places to pick up girls down in the cities?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
The ones that don't understand will probably think that you are one of those tree humpers.reset said:Say you're a secular humanist, or a naturalist. Many people will know what you mean, and the ones that don't, well you can have an interesting time explaining it to them.....
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.