"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Should I openly say I'm Atheist ?
- Thread starter Indigo
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Heart Break Kid
Master Don Juan
Say you're a secular humanist, or a naturalist. Many people will know what you mean, and the ones that don't, well you can have an interesting time explaining it to them.Francisco d'Anconia said:
Other than that, don't ever do or not do something because you're worried how others will perceive you.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Your folks sent you to school up in Moorehead to try to keep you out of trouble didn't they? Well, we'll fix that.Indigo said:
Hit up these clubs on the weekend.
- The Annex
- The Lounge
- The Rush
- Envy
No, not Moorehead, I'm in Bemidji... close enough. There are quite a few hot girls though, I can't complain about that.. I go down to the cities every once in a while and I'm planning on transfering some place else soon... to a bigger city..
thx.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
My beliefs is one of thoose things that women find out when you peel the orange and you take a bite out of it,a nd you get to the middle where the seeds are. Very, very few people know what i believe in.
The ones who evenaully put two and two together always say teh same old ****.. "I never would have guessed someone like you were an athiest".. meaning I enver thought a normal mother****er could not believe in god... meaning if I would have told you before you actually MET me ou would have thought i was an oddball.
again, why defend yourself when there is no need? Do as you wish but behave like others.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
The ones that don't understand will probably think that you are one of those tree humpers.reset said:
So, if you want to, just say you're an atheist. You'll be doing the right thing, for you, which is all that matters.
Just keep in mind, that there are a lot of people who, if given the chance to get to know you, would completely change their opinions of what atheism means to them. You may not get an opportunity to meet these people, or show them how lame their thinking is... the very people who's opinion you could probably change.
You just have to decide, if it's more important to define yourself by your lack of belief, or if you want to "fit in" and try to change the system from the inside.
If it were me, I'd leave the religion (or lack of thereof) out of it all together. Because it doesn't matter. Just like whether you're a conservative or liberal, in the grand scheme of things, really doesn't matter when it comes to meeting people and making friends. That's all surface stuff. So treat it like a surface issue... if you want to get caught up in labels, good or bad, then go for it.
KontrollerX
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Ya don't want to meet some chick off of there and get a connection going with her only to find out that she's a hardcore Christian who will only keep dating you if you are one too.
Not all of them are like that of course but you might as well shop for someone thats more or less got the same outlook on life at least in this really important way as I've heard plenty of horror stories about atheist guys getting involved with Christian chicks and getting married and then there's a big power struggle over whether the kids are going to be raised Christian or Atheist.
Avoid that mess and all other related ones is my advice.
theunflushables
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Here is a link so that you may learn more. May you be touched by His noodly appendage.
http://www.venganza.org/flash/guidetopastafarianismpreloaded.swf
Serialized3
Master Don Juan
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.