"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Should I openly say I'm Atheist ?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Heart Break Kid
Master Don Juan
Say you're a secular humanist, or a naturalist. Many people will know what you mean, and the ones that don't, well you can have an interesting time explaining it to them.Francisco d'Anconia said:
Other than that, don't ever do or not do something because you're worried how others will perceive you.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Your folks sent you to school up in Moorehead to try to keep you out of trouble didn't they? Well, we'll fix that.Indigo said:
Hit up these clubs on the weekend.
- The Annex
- The Lounge
- The Rush
- Envy
No, not Moorehead, I'm in Bemidji... close enough. There are quite a few hot girls though, I can't complain about that.. I go down to the cities every once in a while and I'm planning on transfering some place else soon... to a bigger city..
thx.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
My beliefs is one of thoose things that women find out when you peel the orange and you take a bite out of it,a nd you get to the middle where the seeds are. Very, very few people know what i believe in.
The ones who evenaully put two and two together always say teh same old ****.. "I never would have guessed someone like you were an athiest".. meaning I enver thought a normal mother****er could not believe in god... meaning if I would have told you before you actually MET me ou would have thought i was an oddball.
again, why defend yourself when there is no need? Do as you wish but behave like others.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
The ones that don't understand will probably think that you are one of those tree humpers.reset said:
So, if you want to, just say you're an atheist. You'll be doing the right thing, for you, which is all that matters.
Just keep in mind, that there are a lot of people who, if given the chance to get to know you, would completely change their opinions of what atheism means to them. You may not get an opportunity to meet these people, or show them how lame their thinking is... the very people who's opinion you could probably change.
You just have to decide, if it's more important to define yourself by your lack of belief, or if you want to "fit in" and try to change the system from the inside.
If it were me, I'd leave the religion (or lack of thereof) out of it all together. Because it doesn't matter. Just like whether you're a conservative or liberal, in the grand scheme of things, really doesn't matter when it comes to meeting people and making friends. That's all surface stuff. So treat it like a surface issue... if you want to get caught up in labels, good or bad, then go for it.
KontrollerX
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Ya don't want to meet some chick off of there and get a connection going with her only to find out that she's a hardcore Christian who will only keep dating you if you are one too.
Not all of them are like that of course but you might as well shop for someone thats more or less got the same outlook on life at least in this really important way as I've heard plenty of horror stories about atheist guys getting involved with Christian chicks and getting married and then there's a big power struggle over whether the kids are going to be raised Christian or Atheist.
Avoid that mess and all other related ones is my advice.
theunflushables
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Here is a link so that you may learn more. May you be touched by His noodly appendage.
http://www.venganza.org/flash/guidetopastafarianismpreloaded.swf
Serialized3
Master Don Juan
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.