"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Should I give this new girl a picture? Text Analysis Needed.

Speculator E

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Just got out of a relationship. Been out of the game for a while. Met a new girl from OLD. 21yo from Germany. I got her digits from the site and sent her the text below:

http://imgur.com/a/jLUYW

Not sure if I should give her a picture like she asking or not.
Could use some tips my text game is a little bit rusty.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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dude99

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Sounds to me like you probably aren't the only guy she is talkingto and she needs a pic to remember which one you are.
 

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Make her send you one first and then return one...this back and forth stuff is pointless. Making her send one first diffuses the compliance test if it is one, which it probably isn't.
 

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I'm not convinced that it's useful to analyze texts.

I stopped reading when she replied, "I don't remember you." Right THERE is when I usually respond with silence or, "Oh ok sorry I must be texting the wrong person. Nevermind ;) ;)"

Also, I would save the charm and wit for the face-to-face meeting. No need to sell her on anything via text.
Yeah, I had that happen a few times...typically I just said "LOL" and deleted their number...good chance they are just going to flake anyways
 

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Make her send you one first and then return one...this back and forth stuff is pointless. Making her send one first diffuses the compliance test if it is one, which it probably isn't.
Good tip. She did what I ask and sent one first almost immediately. Lol. Thanks.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I've had this happen a few times, some girls just put a pic to every number on their phone. It isn't a big deal, especially if she can see your profile pics on the website. Just send her one, or let her "earn" it, via some sort of game, where you tease her. Or you can ask for a concession in return. Doesn't matter in the slightest and isn't a bad sign.
 
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