I'm just wondering, should I feel bad for seeing the world as one big pick-up environment? I approach anywhere and everywhere. I try to approach at lunch, I try to approach on the bus, I try to approach at track meets, like I said dude, anywhere there's women I approach them. And I don't even have to be attracted to the girl I approach, most of the time I just approach women for the sake of practicing and getting better. But I don't know, I'm starting to feel sort of bad thinking of the world as one big pick up environment. After all you don't see any other guys approaching any and every girl, just to improve their game. It all feels a little weird. I don't even care what age these women are, I mostly approach High School girls, but I'll even approach Middle School girls just for the hell of it.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Should I feel bad about approaching women, anywhere and everywhere?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Yeah, but somtimes I wonder what'll happen if someone picks up on this and starts noticing me approaching a bunch of girls everyday. I'm not talking about street approaching, but if you're approaching in an environment like school where the same people go everyday.mr_elor said:Nah mate nothing wrong at all.
You can read as much as you want but it's only practise and experience that really teach you so go for it. More you practise the faster you'll get better
Pook says that if you consistently (and unsuccessfully) approach lots of women that you see everyday, such as fellow students or work colleagues, then you will be labled as "desperate" or "a player." Neither of these is good. So you might want to be careful at school.
Otherwise, no, don't feel bad.
Otherwise, no, don't feel bad.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.