"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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avrilishot

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I dont know what I should do. I used to be really desperate on trying to have a g/f but now it seems like it doesnt matter to me. I have so much ****t going on that I dont have time for the ladies. I used to have a problem aproaching ladies but now I really dont. The thing is I dont know what I should do. see right now im not interested in having a g/f now but I do like girls. so should I keep on practicing trying to be a dj even though I dont want a g/f right now?


avrilishot
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I dont know what I should do. I used to be really desperate on trying to have a g/f but now it seems like it doesnt matter to me. I have so much ****t going on that I dont have time for the ladies. I used to have a problem aproaching ladies but now I really dont. The thing is I dont know what I should do. see right now im not interested in having a g/f now but I do like girls. so should I keep on practicing trying to be a dj even though I dont want a g/f right now?


avrilishot


Are you ****ing joking me? Man, if you want to be a DJ then make your own decisions. You want my advice? How about since you dont want a gf, go try picking up some dudes.
 

penkitten

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then take a break from all the pursuing.
always worked for me.
 

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Hey, but wouldn't your mentality give you the advantage here? You pull of DJ methods on the ladies but you don't act as though you were pursuing a girlfriend. I dunno about you guys, but it sounds like the whole "being a challenge" thing. Unless you tell the girl, she wont know whether you're on a search for a girlfriend or not. But because you're really not aiming to get a girlfriend, you might tend to disqualify the girl, making yourself a challenge?

LOL I'm not sure, but I think that's what I see. It might help. Keep searching!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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