"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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should I continue?

avrilishot

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I dont know what I should do. I used to be really desperate on trying to have a g/f but now it seems like it doesnt matter to me. I have so much ****t going on that I dont have time for the ladies. I used to have a problem aproaching ladies but now I really dont. The thing is I dont know what I should do. see right now im not interested in having a g/f now but I do like girls. so should I keep on practicing trying to be a dj even though I dont want a g/f right now?


avrilishot
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I dont know what I should do. I used to be really desperate on trying to have a g/f but now it seems like it doesnt matter to me. I have so much ****t going on that I dont have time for the ladies. I used to have a problem aproaching ladies but now I really dont. The thing is I dont know what I should do. see right now im not interested in having a g/f now but I do like girls. so should I keep on practicing trying to be a dj even though I dont want a g/f right now?


avrilishot


Are you ****ing joking me? Man, if you want to be a DJ then make your own decisions. You want my advice? How about since you dont want a gf, go try picking up some dudes.
 

penkitten

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then take a break from all the pursuing.
always worked for me.
 

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Hey, but wouldn't your mentality give you the advantage here? You pull of DJ methods on the ladies but you don't act as though you were pursuing a girlfriend. I dunno about you guys, but it sounds like the whole "being a challenge" thing. Unless you tell the girl, she wont know whether you're on a search for a girlfriend or not. But because you're really not aiming to get a girlfriend, you might tend to disqualify the girl, making yourself a challenge?

LOL I'm not sure, but I think that's what I see. It might help. Keep searching!
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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