LostAndConfused
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My girlfriend has been showing pretty low interest these past couple of days. should I tell her I'm aware of it?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Should I confront my girlfriend?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Don't tell her. You should know how to act to attract girls from reading this site, do that, don't get complacent. If you can't get her more attracted to you in the next day or two, leave her.LostAndConfused said:
LostAndConfused
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We've been dating for some time I can't just "leave her."
We're past "attraction" too.
We're past "attraction" too.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
LostAndConfused
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Yes she's had a couple of things that legitimately would bother her (in perspective its not that big a deal) but even after she says she's over with it she acts different....Raikojo17 said:
she called me three times just now trying to tell me that she didn't want me to worry about her, so she didnt tell me whats wrong initially.
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I hate to be a downer, but there's really no sense in finding out what's 'wrong'.Raikojo17 said:
Sadly, these are things a man puts himself at risk for when he enters a monogamous relationship.
There's also really no sense in asking her. She won't tell you what's really up.
The most you'll get out of her is "I've just been feeling different lately."
Give it another day or two.
If it continues, start opening up your options and prepare for departure.
Start distancing yourself.
If at this point she's still not upping her interest in you, it's time to leave.
Don't be rash about it. Don't fight about it. Be polite and simple.
LostAndConfused
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Thanks bro, very sound advice.WC2 said:
WC2 - Excellent advice.
LostAndConfused - She may not answer you truthfully (if she fears judgment), or there is considerable distance (emotionally) between you, but it shows concern that you ask about how she's feeling. I hope she snaps out of it soon. If she does ever decide to tell you something's wrong/bothering her, JUST LISTEN and ask appropriate questions at appropriate times. This makes women want to be closer to their SO's. =)
LostAndConfused - She may not answer you truthfully (if she fears judgment), or there is considerable distance (emotionally) between you, but it shows concern that you ask about how she's feeling. I hope she snaps out of it soon. If she does ever decide to tell you something's wrong/bothering her, JUST LISTEN and ask appropriate questions at appropriate times. This makes women want to be closer to their SO's. =)