LostAndConfused
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My girlfriend has been showing pretty low interest these past couple of days. should I tell her I'm aware of it?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Should I confront my girlfriend?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Don't tell her. You should know how to act to attract girls from reading this site, do that, don't get complacent. If you can't get her more attracted to you in the next day or two, leave her.LostAndConfused said:
LostAndConfused
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We've been dating for some time I can't just "leave her."
We're past "attraction" too.
We're past "attraction" too.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
LostAndConfused
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Yes she's had a couple of things that legitimately would bother her (in perspective its not that big a deal) but even after she says she's over with it she acts different....Raikojo17 said:
she called me three times just now trying to tell me that she didn't want me to worry about her, so she didnt tell me whats wrong initially.
WC2
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I hate to be a downer, but there's really no sense in finding out what's 'wrong'.Raikojo17 said:
Sadly, these are things a man puts himself at risk for when he enters a monogamous relationship.
There's also really no sense in asking her. She won't tell you what's really up.
The most you'll get out of her is "I've just been feeling different lately."
Give it another day or two.
If it continues, start opening up your options and prepare for departure.
Start distancing yourself.
If at this point she's still not upping her interest in you, it's time to leave.
Don't be rash about it. Don't fight about it. Be polite and simple.
LostAndConfused
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Thanks bro, very sound advice.WC2 said:
WC2 - Excellent advice.
LostAndConfused - She may not answer you truthfully (if she fears judgment), or there is considerable distance (emotionally) between you, but it shows concern that you ask about how she's feeling. I hope she snaps out of it soon. If she does ever decide to tell you something's wrong/bothering her, JUST LISTEN and ask appropriate questions at appropriate times. This makes women want to be closer to their SO's. =)
LostAndConfused - She may not answer you truthfully (if she fears judgment), or there is considerable distance (emotionally) between you, but it shows concern that you ask about how she's feeling. I hope she snaps out of it soon. If she does ever decide to tell you something's wrong/bothering her, JUST LISTEN and ask appropriate questions at appropriate times. This makes women want to be closer to their SO's. =)