LostAndConfused
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My girlfriend has been showing pretty low interest these past couple of days. should I tell her I'm aware of it?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Should I confront my girlfriend?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Don't tell her. You should know how to act to attract girls from reading this site, do that, don't get complacent. If you can't get her more attracted to you in the next day or two, leave her.LostAndConfused said:
LostAndConfused
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We've been dating for some time I can't just "leave her."
We're past "attraction" too.
We're past "attraction" too.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
LostAndConfused
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Yes she's had a couple of things that legitimately would bother her (in perspective its not that big a deal) but even after she says she's over with it she acts different....Raikojo17 said:
she called me three times just now trying to tell me that she didn't want me to worry about her, so she didnt tell me whats wrong initially.
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I hate to be a downer, but there's really no sense in finding out what's 'wrong'.Raikojo17 said:
Sadly, these are things a man puts himself at risk for when he enters a monogamous relationship.
There's also really no sense in asking her. She won't tell you what's really up.
The most you'll get out of her is "I've just been feeling different lately."
Give it another day or two.
If it continues, start opening up your options and prepare for departure.
Start distancing yourself.
If at this point she's still not upping her interest in you, it's time to leave.
Don't be rash about it. Don't fight about it. Be polite and simple.
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Thanks bro, very sound advice.WC2 said:
WC2 - Excellent advice.
LostAndConfused - She may not answer you truthfully (if she fears judgment), or there is considerable distance (emotionally) between you, but it shows concern that you ask about how she's feeling. I hope she snaps out of it soon. If she does ever decide to tell you something's wrong/bothering her, JUST LISTEN and ask appropriate questions at appropriate times. This makes women want to be closer to their SO's. =)
LostAndConfused - She may not answer you truthfully (if she fears judgment), or there is considerable distance (emotionally) between you, but it shows concern that you ask about how she's feeling. I hope she snaps out of it soon. If she does ever decide to tell you something's wrong/bothering her, JUST LISTEN and ask appropriate questions at appropriate times. This makes women want to be closer to their SO's. =)