LostAndConfused
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My girlfriend has been showing pretty low interest these past couple of days. should I tell her I'm aware of it?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Should I confront my girlfriend?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Don't tell her. You should know how to act to attract girls from reading this site, do that, don't get complacent. If you can't get her more attracted to you in the next day or two, leave her.LostAndConfused said:
LostAndConfused
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We've been dating for some time I can't just "leave her."
We're past "attraction" too.
We're past "attraction" too.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
LostAndConfused
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Yes she's had a couple of things that legitimately would bother her (in perspective its not that big a deal) but even after she says she's over with it she acts different....Raikojo17 said:
she called me three times just now trying to tell me that she didn't want me to worry about her, so she didnt tell me whats wrong initially.
WC2
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I hate to be a downer, but there's really no sense in finding out what's 'wrong'.Raikojo17 said:
Sadly, these are things a man puts himself at risk for when he enters a monogamous relationship.
There's also really no sense in asking her. She won't tell you what's really up.
The most you'll get out of her is "I've just been feeling different lately."
Give it another day or two.
If it continues, start opening up your options and prepare for departure.
Start distancing yourself.
If at this point she's still not upping her interest in you, it's time to leave.
Don't be rash about it. Don't fight about it. Be polite and simple.
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Thanks bro, very sound advice.WC2 said:
WC2 - Excellent advice.
LostAndConfused - She may not answer you truthfully (if she fears judgment), or there is considerable distance (emotionally) between you, but it shows concern that you ask about how she's feeling. I hope she snaps out of it soon. If she does ever decide to tell you something's wrong/bothering her, JUST LISTEN and ask appropriate questions at appropriate times. This makes women want to be closer to their SO's. =)
LostAndConfused - She may not answer you truthfully (if she fears judgment), or there is considerable distance (emotionally) between you, but it shows concern that you ask about how she's feeling. I hope she snaps out of it soon. If she does ever decide to tell you something's wrong/bothering her, JUST LISTEN and ask appropriate questions at appropriate times. This makes women want to be closer to their SO's. =)