LostAndConfused
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My girlfriend has been showing pretty low interest these past couple of days. should I tell her I'm aware of it?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Should I confront my girlfriend?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Don't tell her. You should know how to act to attract girls from reading this site, do that, don't get complacent. If you can't get her more attracted to you in the next day or two, leave her.LostAndConfused said:
LostAndConfused
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We've been dating for some time I can't just "leave her."
We're past "attraction" too.
We're past "attraction" too.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
LostAndConfused
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Yes she's had a couple of things that legitimately would bother her (in perspective its not that big a deal) but even after she says she's over with it she acts different....Raikojo17 said:
she called me three times just now trying to tell me that she didn't want me to worry about her, so she didnt tell me whats wrong initially.
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I hate to be a downer, but there's really no sense in finding out what's 'wrong'.Raikojo17 said:
Sadly, these are things a man puts himself at risk for when he enters a monogamous relationship.
There's also really no sense in asking her. She won't tell you what's really up.
The most you'll get out of her is "I've just been feeling different lately."
Give it another day or two.
If it continues, start opening up your options and prepare for departure.
Start distancing yourself.
If at this point she's still not upping her interest in you, it's time to leave.
Don't be rash about it. Don't fight about it. Be polite and simple.
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Thanks bro, very sound advice.WC2 said:
WC2 - Excellent advice.
LostAndConfused - She may not answer you truthfully (if she fears judgment), or there is considerable distance (emotionally) between you, but it shows concern that you ask about how she's feeling. I hope she snaps out of it soon. If she does ever decide to tell you something's wrong/bothering her, JUST LISTEN and ask appropriate questions at appropriate times. This makes women want to be closer to their SO's. =)
LostAndConfused - She may not answer you truthfully (if she fears judgment), or there is considerable distance (emotionally) between you, but it shows concern that you ask about how she's feeling. I hope she snaps out of it soon. If she does ever decide to tell you something's wrong/bothering her, JUST LISTEN and ask appropriate questions at appropriate times. This makes women want to be closer to their SO's. =)