"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Should I cancel this date?

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First date went really good, she texted right after saying how much fun it was and how we need to do it again.

She took a little while to reply when I was setting up the next date and did some back and forth after she texted back.

Texted her today to reschedule 30 minutes later on the meet up around 2 and no response yet.

Feeling like canceling the date all around because I am annoyed and if she wanted to actually go on another date shed respond quickly.

How should I play this out? Cancel or not?
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Shoulda waited until she texted you that she had good time. A man should never do that first. Anyways, go, but make sure you're kinoing her and having a good time for both.
 
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RickTheToad said:
Shoulda waited until she texted you that she had good time. A man should never do that first. Anyways, go, but make sure you're kinoing her and having a good time for both.
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I did wait until she did that. Waited two days, should of added that in there. We were making out the whole way back as we were walking.
 
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You told her how the "movie" ends. When a woman thinks she has you hook, line and sinker, it's game over. You need to seem ambivalent for a while.
 
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You told her how the "movie" ends. When a woman thinks she has you hook, line and sinker, it's game over. You need to seem ambivalent for a while.
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I like that. How would you handle the situation at this point?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If she doesnt respond back then you find another date.

If she still shows up and gets p!ssed you tell her to respond back to you next time.
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What I was looking for thanks man
 
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I did wait until she did that. Waited two days, should of added that in there. We were making out the whole way back as we were walking.
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ITF, if you've not heard back, and you want to check in wait a week or so. Let the experience marinate in her mind a bit. Appear to have other options; even if you don't.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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If a woman just drops off the face of the earth, it does no good to hit her back up later on.

You only show that you're vulnerable and dont have options, on top of having no self respect and standards.

If they disappear, I say let them stay gone. There are too many women out there to put up with this crap from one.

At best case you hit her up and she does it to you again after a date or two.

No thanks
 
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jboyd5 said:
First date went really good, she texted right after saying how much fun it was and how we need to do it again.

She took a little while to reply when I was setting up the next date and did some back and forth after she texted back.

Texted her today to reschedule 30 minutes later on the meet up around 2 and no response yet.

Feeling like canceling the date all around because I am annoyed and if she wanted to actually go on another date shed respond quickly.

How should I play this out? Cancel or not?
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so what happened?
 
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Never got back to me so I didnt go, stayed in the dorm with the boys and played poker
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She thinks that she found a better option. Remember that if she ever reaches out.

I don't deal with flakes and ghosts. There are too many hot and available women out there to condone this behavior.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Glassguy said:
She thinks that she found a better option. Remember that if she ever reaches out.

I don't deal with flakes and ghosts. There are too many hot and available women out there to condone this behavior.
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hah already got a better girl on my mind anyways. 30k people on this campus not about to go back to one girl
 
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