"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Should I cancel this date?

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First date went really good, she texted right after saying how much fun it was and how we need to do it again.

She took a little while to reply when I was setting up the next date and did some back and forth after she texted back.

Texted her today to reschedule 30 minutes later on the meet up around 2 and no response yet.

Feeling like canceling the date all around because I am annoyed and if she wanted to actually go on another date shed respond quickly.

How should I play this out? Cancel or not?
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Shoulda waited until she texted you that she had good time. A man should never do that first. Anyways, go, but make sure you're kinoing her and having a good time for both.
 
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RickTheToad said:
Shoulda waited until she texted you that she had good time. A man should never do that first. Anyways, go, but make sure you're kinoing her and having a good time for both.
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I did wait until she did that. Waited two days, should of added that in there. We were making out the whole way back as we were walking.
 
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You told her how the "movie" ends. When a woman thinks she has you hook, line and sinker, it's game over. You need to seem ambivalent for a while.
 
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You told her how the "movie" ends. When a woman thinks she has you hook, line and sinker, it's game over. You need to seem ambivalent for a while.
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I like that. How would you handle the situation at this point?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If she doesnt respond back then you find another date.

If she still shows up and gets p!ssed you tell her to respond back to you next time.
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What I was looking for thanks man
 
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I did wait until she did that. Waited two days, should of added that in there. We were making out the whole way back as we were walking.
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ITF, if you've not heard back, and you want to check in wait a week or so. Let the experience marinate in her mind a bit. Appear to have other options; even if you don't.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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If a woman just drops off the face of the earth, it does no good to hit her back up later on.

You only show that you're vulnerable and dont have options, on top of having no self respect and standards.

If they disappear, I say let them stay gone. There are too many women out there to put up with this crap from one.

At best case you hit her up and she does it to you again after a date or two.

No thanks
 
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jboyd5 said:
First date went really good, she texted right after saying how much fun it was and how we need to do it again.

She took a little while to reply when I was setting up the next date and did some back and forth after she texted back.

Texted her today to reschedule 30 minutes later on the meet up around 2 and no response yet.

Feeling like canceling the date all around because I am annoyed and if she wanted to actually go on another date shed respond quickly.

How should I play this out? Cancel or not?
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so what happened?
 
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Never got back to me so I didnt go, stayed in the dorm with the boys and played poker
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She thinks that she found a better option. Remember that if she ever reaches out.

I don't deal with flakes and ghosts. There are too many hot and available women out there to condone this behavior.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Glassguy said:
She thinks that she found a better option. Remember that if she ever reaches out.

I don't deal with flakes and ghosts. There are too many hot and available women out there to condone this behavior.
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hah already got a better girl on my mind anyways. 30k people on this campus not about to go back to one girl
 
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