You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Deadly_Ripped said:I occasionally have ridiculous acne on one or two spots on my face and I try not to think about it. I've never rescheduled because of it. I'd say that if you're so self concious about it that you know it'll get your game off or distract you then yeah, cancel. Just make sure you come up with a legitimate excuse and follow through with the excuse, and then reschedule during the same phone call.
Hey what ur saying is true in theory, but all i know is girls were only interested me when i had a clear face. Ibeen struggling with acne since age 13, and girls never wanted anythign to do with me when i had zits. During times where i was able to control it they did like me.OMGWTF said:You should be confident enough that regardless of how you look, so long as you don't look like a total slob dirtbag that you're going to do just fine. Guys are naturally ugly. Prettyboys have it easy, because they can be dumb as **** and get away with anything. Average guys need to be clever to attract girls, because girls are attracted to your personality, not your looks. Be clever, be confident, she's not looking at your acne. She's looking at you, as a person.
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Also, come on! Don't be ridiculous.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
dreamx_hacker_pimp said:hahahaha loser