Called a girl last night, she texted she couldnt speak cause she had other things to do, but asked in the text if we could talk today instead. I've waited for the call but now I wonder, is she doing the same thing? Should I call or should I wait for her to call me?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Should I call or should I wait for call?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
OlympicTim
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Call her.
Maximus Rex
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Props for actually calling the broad, however she was blowing you off.
Why are you asking instead of telling and doing?
Spin plates and try again in a week or two, however when you call make sure that you're doing something.
Oh no, sorry, she was asking if we could today instead
Maximus Rex
Banned
She has more important things going on in her life other than you. Do what I said to do.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Do not give your strength to women, your ways to those who destroy kings.
Tictac
Banned
You asked her to call.
She didn't.
Wait at least a week before even thinking about it.
She didn't.
Wait at least a week before even thinking about it.
Maximus Rex
Banned
Texting back and forth talking about what? And how was texting back and forth suppose to benefit you?
Bruh, seriously. Do you think if
she's be to tired to talk?
That's becasue she isn't f*cking with you. Move on.
nismo-4
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Your princess is in another castle.
Don't hold your breath for her. Quit wasting your time on her and move on. She did!
Case closed. Get out of my court.
Don't hold your breath for her. Quit wasting your time on her and move on. She did!
Case closed. Get out of my court.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
blind_one
Master Don Juan
I assume she asked if you two could talk the next day. If so I would instantly tell her to call me at X:Y time on that day. If she did not , well its her loss.