"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Should i call her?

cfajason

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Guys i need some advice here.....this girl that i have been dating for about 3 weeks all the suddhen stopped calling me:( Its been 5 days since we last talked....i tried to call her then,but she hung up:( Should i call one last time?Im really want to see her again,dont know what went wrong.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bussey

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Originally posted by cfajason
Its been 5 days since we last talked....i tried to call her then,but she hung up:(
Uhhh.... Seems to answer your question right there. Next.
 

joekerr31

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life is too short to deal with drama b*tches like this chic.

if you're friend didn't call you and when you called him he hung up on you what would be your reaction?

i'd consider him dead and move on.

so why would you show this chic any other kind of response?

J
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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flexion_

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Unfortunately you'll never find out what went wrong other than it do go wrong so just move on.
 

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Might be a test. Just don't call her. Forget about her. Move on with life, work towards your goals, whatever they may be, and stay busy. If she's more than an attention wh0re and worth being around she'll call and say something along the lines of "where have YOU been?" in which case you can bust her balls and say "avoiding YOU!!!"

Bottom line: don't be clingy. Create some space between you and her. If she calls after a few weeks, awesome. If she doesn't, awesome. Just keep on working on YOURSELF despite what's happening in your love life. You = #1 don't forget it!
 

salsipuedes

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Originally posted by cfajason
Guys i need some advice here.....this girl that i have been dating for about 3 weeks all the suddhen stopped calling me:( Its been 5 days since we last talked....i tried to call her then,but she hung up:( Should i call one last time?Im really want to see her again,dont know what went wrong.

1st, kill the needy attitude, regardless of whats going on you can't become needy or its over, be calm about the situation, i think that a person that stops calling that sudden has problems communicating, if you did something wrong a normal person would tell you ( she didnt), if she found another guy a normal person would tell you (she didnt), so shes obviously not 100% in the emotional department. My suggestion is send her an email, tell her your sending the email as a friend, not as a boyfriend, tell her that there must be something wrong for her to be acting this irrational, and that since you cant get into her head, your not going to try to figure this one out (basically your saying, i am not going to bother with your crap), offer her your friendship, be polite, helpful, but not needy, and then say goodbye.

If she contacts you she will explain what happened, if she doesnt, shes a ****ing wacko, your lucky to get rid of her.
 

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Basically I agree with the last two responses, although it's rarely clear what is going on in situations like this. If you had a mutual friend maybe you could find out.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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She called me yesterday after i posted telling me she was working....anyways im gonna avoid her.
 
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