"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Should i call her?

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Guys i need some advice here.....this girl that i have been dating for about 3 weeks all the suddhen stopped calling me:( Its been 5 days since we last talked....i tried to call her then,but she hung up:( Should i call one last time?Im really want to see her again,dont know what went wrong.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by cfajason
Its been 5 days since we last talked....i tried to call her then,but she hung up:(
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Uhhh.... Seems to answer your question right there. Next.
 
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life is too short to deal with drama b*tches like this chic.

if you're friend didn't call you and when you called him he hung up on you what would be your reaction?

i'd consider him dead and move on.

so why would you show this chic any other kind of response?

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Unfortunately you'll never find out what went wrong other than it do go wrong so just move on.
 
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Might be a test. Just don't call her. Forget about her. Move on with life, work towards your goals, whatever they may be, and stay busy. If she's more than an attention wh0re and worth being around she'll call and say something along the lines of "where have YOU been?" in which case you can bust her balls and say "avoiding YOU!!!"

Bottom line: don't be clingy. Create some space between you and her. If she calls after a few weeks, awesome. If she doesn't, awesome. Just keep on working on YOURSELF despite what's happening in your love life. You = #1 don't forget it!
 
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Originally posted by cfajason
Guys i need some advice here.....this girl that i have been dating for about 3 weeks all the suddhen stopped calling me:( Its been 5 days since we last talked....i tried to call her then,but she hung up:( Should i call one last time?Im really want to see her again,dont know what went wrong.
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1st, kill the needy attitude, regardless of whats going on you can't become needy or its over, be calm about the situation, i think that a person that stops calling that sudden has problems communicating, if you did something wrong a normal person would tell you ( she didnt), if she found another guy a normal person would tell you (she didnt), so shes obviously not 100% in the emotional department. My suggestion is send her an email, tell her your sending the email as a friend, not as a boyfriend, tell her that there must be something wrong for her to be acting this irrational, and that since you cant get into her head, your not going to try to figure this one out (basically your saying, i am not going to bother with your crap), offer her your friendship, be polite, helpful, but not needy, and then say goodbye.

If she contacts you she will explain what happened, if she doesnt, shes a ****ing wacko, your lucky to get rid of her.
 
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Basically I agree with the last two responses, although it's rarely clear what is going on in situations like this. If you had a mutual friend maybe you could find out.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She called me yesterday after i posted telling me she was working....anyways im gonna avoid her.
 
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