"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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should i call her to say whats up or set up a time to hang out?

aix237

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Ok so i messed around this chick we talked the next day saw each other next day real fast blah blah blah. We havent talked since saturday now its tuesday. Im thinking about callin her tomorrow but should i just call to say whats up real fast or ask her to hang out this weekened? I just dont want to give off too much interest. i think if i call and not ask her to hang out then it will fvck with her head. AlsoI dont wanna make it look like i just want azz.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sicx

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Im not a huge fan of just calling out the of the blue to hang out, it catches her off guard and kind of forces her to answer. Just my opinion but i would try to open up small talk again maybe with a text or something and then when you get that going then u can ask her out.
 

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there's nothign wrong with showing interest, that's a big misconception

what's bad is showing neediness
 
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