"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
should i ask this girl out on a date
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
sharkbeat
Master Don Juan
Let me ask you something...What are you waiting for?Sand said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Well put sir.sharkybear said:
prairiedog24
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Possibly to grow up. OP sounds really young.EnjoysWatches said:
I really appreciate your feedback.
Actually, I just turned 22 so I'm not that young lol
The thing is that I'm a mama's boy and I have never been successful with women. My mom has always told me to treat women with respect blah blah blah. I'm honestly tired of that because it hasn't gotten me anywhere!
I haven't made a move because I didn't know if there was a time frame I had to wait after a break up...
You should always treat women with respect, however the problem with most men that have been brought up with this pounded into their head by their mothers is the other side of the coin. Even your mother doesn't want a man that will be agreeable with her 100% of the time... Even your mother doesn't want some mamby pamby sissy boy for a husband. The key is to not be afraid of offending a woman, but still treating her like a woman when the time is right. The problem rears up when a man stops being himself around a woman and tries to please her all the time. Don't be a jerk to her, but don't mind all your P's and Q's either. If you don't want to do something with her, either bargain with something you want to do also or just tell her you don't want to. If you disagree with her, tell her so. When you're out on the town, open doors for her, pull out her seat, tell her she looks good, tell her you like a certain piece of clothing. When you take her home or even on the date... make a move... Nice guys (that want to get women) make the first moves, but they're not overly pushy.Sand said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.