"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
sharkbeat
Master Don Juan
Let me ask you something...What are you waiting for?Sand said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Well put sir.sharkybear said:
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Possibly to grow up. OP sounds really young.EnjoysWatches said:
I really appreciate your feedback.
Actually, I just turned 22 so I'm not that young lol
The thing is that I'm a mama's boy and I have never been successful with women. My mom has always told me to treat women with respect blah blah blah. I'm honestly tired of that because it hasn't gotten me anywhere!
I haven't made a move because I didn't know if there was a time frame I had to wait after a break up...
You should always treat women with respect, however the problem with most men that have been brought up with this pounded into their head by their mothers is the other side of the coin. Even your mother doesn't want a man that will be agreeable with her 100% of the time... Even your mother doesn't want some mamby pamby sissy boy for a husband. The key is to not be afraid of offending a woman, but still treating her like a woman when the time is right. The problem rears up when a man stops being himself around a woman and tries to please her all the time. Don't be a jerk to her, but don't mind all your P's and Q's either. If you don't want to do something with her, either bargain with something you want to do also or just tell her you don't want to. If you disagree with her, tell her so. When you're out on the town, open doors for her, pull out her seat, tell her she looks good, tell her you like a certain piece of clothing. When you take her home or even on the date... make a move... Nice guys (that want to get women) make the first moves, but they're not overly pushy.Sand said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.