"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
should i ask this girl out on a date
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
sharkbeat
Master Don Juan
Let me ask you something...What are you waiting for?Sand said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Well put sir.sharkybear said:
prairiedog24
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Possibly to grow up. OP sounds really young.EnjoysWatches said:
I really appreciate your feedback.
Actually, I just turned 22 so I'm not that young lol
The thing is that I'm a mama's boy and I have never been successful with women. My mom has always told me to treat women with respect blah blah blah. I'm honestly tired of that because it hasn't gotten me anywhere!
I haven't made a move because I didn't know if there was a time frame I had to wait after a break up...
You should always treat women with respect, however the problem with most men that have been brought up with this pounded into their head by their mothers is the other side of the coin. Even your mother doesn't want a man that will be agreeable with her 100% of the time... Even your mother doesn't want some mamby pamby sissy boy for a husband. The key is to not be afraid of offending a woman, but still treating her like a woman when the time is right. The problem rears up when a man stops being himself around a woman and tries to please her all the time. Don't be a jerk to her, but don't mind all your P's and Q's either. If you don't want to do something with her, either bargain with something you want to do also or just tell her you don't want to. If you disagree with her, tell her so. When you're out on the town, open doors for her, pull out her seat, tell her she looks good, tell her you like a certain piece of clothing. When you take her home or even on the date... make a move... Nice guys (that want to get women) make the first moves, but they're not overly pushy.Sand said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.