"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Shes not my type

toasttopper1879

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In this situation I reckon I might have overplayed the game too much.I've spent time flirting and buildng raport with a girl,while at the same time I've remained just that little bit out of reach to keep her guesing.
However all this has led to the girl thinking I have no interest in her.Recently she said she thought that she was nt my type and the odd compliment I drop she says I'm lying.
So whats the deal.Is she fishing for reasurrance or have I become too aloof for her.
As for the "I dont think I'm your type" comment,I had no answer to it and offered a lame "maybe" answer.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Tazman

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Have you tried actually asking her out?
 

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Originally posted by toasttopper1879
In this situation I reckon I might have overplayed the game too much.I've spent time flirting and buildng raport with a girl,while at the same time I've remained just that little bit out of reach to keep her guesing.
However all this has led to the girl thinking I have no interest in her.Recently she said she thought that she was nt my type and the odd compliment I drop she says I'm lying.
So whats the deal.Is she fishing for reasurrance or have I become too aloof for her.
As for the "I dont think I'm your type" comment,I had no answer to it and offered a lame "maybe" answer.
Save your drama for your mama.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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shark

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I'd start showing a little more interest, and see how she responds or kinda let her know that she's doing OK or your somewhat INTERESTED in her.

Go ahead, ask her out. Tell her you guys should go out and have something to do.
 

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have you dated her?
 

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Originally posted by toasttopper1879
Recently she said she thought that she was nt my type and the odd compliment I drop she says I'm lying.
So whats the deal.Is she fishing for reasurrance or have I become too aloof for her.
She's trying to manipulate you into "persuading" her that she IS your type, aka pursuing her; the best response is, "You're right, you're NOT my type, but you're not too bad."
 
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