"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Shes not my type

toasttopper1879

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In this situation I reckon I might have overplayed the game too much.I've spent time flirting and buildng raport with a girl,while at the same time I've remained just that little bit out of reach to keep her guesing.
However all this has led to the girl thinking I have no interest in her.Recently she said she thought that she was nt my type and the odd compliment I drop she says I'm lying.
So whats the deal.Is she fishing for reasurrance or have I become too aloof for her.
As for the "I dont think I'm your type" comment,I had no answer to it and offered a lame "maybe" answer.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Tazman

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Have you tried actually asking her out?
 

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Originally posted by toasttopper1879
In this situation I reckon I might have overplayed the game too much.I've spent time flirting and buildng raport with a girl,while at the same time I've remained just that little bit out of reach to keep her guesing.
However all this has led to the girl thinking I have no interest in her.Recently she said she thought that she was nt my type and the odd compliment I drop she says I'm lying.
So whats the deal.Is she fishing for reasurrance or have I become too aloof for her.
As for the "I dont think I'm your type" comment,I had no answer to it and offered a lame "maybe" answer.
Save your drama for your mama.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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shark

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I'd start showing a little more interest, and see how she responds or kinda let her know that she's doing OK or your somewhat INTERESTED in her.

Go ahead, ask her out. Tell her you guys should go out and have something to do.
 

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have you dated her?
 

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Originally posted by toasttopper1879
Recently she said she thought that she was nt my type and the odd compliment I drop she says I'm lying.
So whats the deal.Is she fishing for reasurrance or have I become too aloof for her.
She's trying to manipulate you into "persuading" her that she IS your type, aka pursuing her; the best response is, "You're right, you're NOT my type, but you're not too bad."
 
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