Been working on a girl for a while who seems pretty interested, when I asked what she looks for in a guy (She asked me about what i looked for in a girl first) i had almost every characteristic she listed off etc....but she's never been with a guy before, or even made out with one. How do you all think I should break the ice in this situation?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She's never had a boyfriend...
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
RaMar
Senior Don Juan
I don't think you should do anything differently. Maybe take it a little slower then normal as she will probably take a little longer to get used to things then girls who have done it before. Go for it man.
Vigilante7
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what a coicidence
Five 16yr olders post ina row.......\\
Five 16yr olders post ina row.......\\
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
RaMar
Senior Don Juan
Getting advice from 16 year olds when you are 16 is better then getting 4 replied from people from different ages. For instance 4 replies for people of the ages of 13, 16, 19, 23 is worse then 4 replies from people from all the same age as you.
I that pretty geeky, oh well.
