she's getting frustrated because i won't be manipulated

[piday314]

Lots of chump hit on this girl etc. and get her head really big. I think she's aight. Now she's expressing lots of frustration because I refuse to be manipulated by her into treating her like a little helpless princess.

Have any of you been hitting on an egotistical chick like this and run into this barrier where you can't qualify her because she doesn't know how to qualify herself like a normal person?

 

[horaholic]

Yeah, and I usually bang them for it.

 

[Plinco]

yes, I have ran into this also.

 

[Iceberg]

Yeah. It's kind of a "Challenge meets Challenge" situation.

The girl kind of ends up wanting you just because you're one of the few guys who isn't bowing down to her. And you want her because she's of high status in her own way.

 

[Masculinity]

Yuuup! This is how my last LTR started. She actually said to me once: "you don't flood me with compliments or kiss my ass like other guys I've dated, so when you do say something or you're nice to me it feels great" with a huge smile on my face. I think I got some action while I was driving after that...anyway, I'm going off on a tangent, haha. You get the idea. Don't kiss-->:moon:

Reward her good behavior with things she likes. Just like you'd reward a little girl after she did her chores or finished her quiz with an "A" in school. When asked " hey, can we hangout tomorrow? Come over to my house" I'd say: "only if you behave" or " what's in it for me?" And then she'd offer to cook for me or give me an unforgetable night, or respond with " I'll behaaave, I'll behave! what time should I expect you?."

Thank you Jesus for the DJ knowledge!!!

 

[Ease]

Yuuup! This is how my last LTR started. She actually said to me once: "you don't flood me with compliments or kiss my ass like other guys I've dated, so when you do say something or you're nice to me it feels great" with a huge smile on my face. I think I got some action while I was driving after that...anyway, I'm going off on a tangent, haha. You get the idea. Don't kiss-->:moon:

Reward her good behavior with things she likes. Just like you'd reward a little girl after she did her chores or finished her quiz with an "A" in school. When asked " hey, can we hangout tomorrow? Come over to my house" I'd say: "only if you behave" or " what's in it for me?" And then she'd offer to cook for me or give me an unforgetable night, or respond with " I'll behaaave, I'll behave! what time should I expect you?."

Thank you Jesus for the DJ knowledge!!!

Have you ever actually tried this in an LTR?

Because this gets old and goofy after 2 weeks. Its too much effort to keep up playful and challenging replies every time. Rewarding when she does good things is the same thing. You need to ignore more than you reward or else it will get old for both of you fast.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

Have you ever actually tried this in an LTR?

Because this gets old and goofy after 2 weeks. Its too much effort to keep up playful and challenging replies every time. Rewarding when she does good things is the same thing. You need to ignore more than you reward or else it will get old for both of you fast.

A lot of that guy's suggestions tend to be on the goofy side. Sounds a bit canned, doesn't it?

 

[IamJosan]

A lot of that guy's suggestions tend to be on the goofy side. Sounds a bit canned, doesn't it?

Isn't that the whole point of this, to have fun?

 

[Masculinity]

Have you ever actually tried this in an LTR?

Because this gets old and goofy after 2 weeks. Its too much effort to keep up playful and challenging replies every time. Rewarding when she does good things is the same thing. You need to ignore more than you reward or else it will get old for both of you fast.

It's not easy but it isn't rocket science. I did it for 2 1/2 years with my ex gf and it worked like a charm. You have to do it once in a while because if you do it too much it'll lose its value. They like it when you're different.

You can try kissing azz though and see how that goes for you, but this works great for me!