"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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she's getting frustrated because i won't be manipulated

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Lots of chump hit on this girl etc. and get her head really big. I think she's aight. Now she's expressing lots of frustration because I refuse to be manipulated by her into treating her like a little helpless princess.

Have any of you been hitting on an egotistical chick like this and run into this barrier where you can't qualify her because she doesn't know how to qualify herself like a normal person?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yeah, and I usually bang them for it.
 
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yes, I have ran into this also.
 
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Yeah. It's kind of a "Challenge meets Challenge" situation.

The girl kind of ends up wanting you just because you're one of the few guys who isn't bowing down to her. And you want her because she's of high status in her own way.
 
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Yuuup! This is how my last LTR started. She actually said to me once: "you don't flood me with compliments or kiss my ass like other guys I've dated, so when you do say something or you're nice to me it feels great" with a huge smile on my face. I think I got some action while I was driving after that...anyway, I'm going off on a tangent, haha. You get the idea. Don't kiss-->:moon:

Reward her good behavior with things she likes. Just like you'd reward a little girl after she did her chores or finished her quiz with an "A" in school. When asked " hey, can we hangout tomorrow? Come over to my house" I'd say: "only if you behave" or " what's in it for me?" And then she'd offer to cook for me or give me an unforgetable night, or respond with " I'll behaaave, I'll behave! what time should I expect you?."

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Robyn923b said:
Yuuup! This is how my last LTR started. She actually said to me once: "you don't flood me with compliments or kiss my ass like other guys I've dated, so when you do say something or you're nice to me it feels great" with a huge smile on my face. I think I got some action while I was driving after that...anyway, I'm going off on a tangent, haha. You get the idea. Don't kiss-->:moon:

Reward her good behavior with things she likes. Just like you'd reward a little girl after she did her chores or finished her quiz with an "A" in school. When asked " hey, can we hangout tomorrow? Come over to my house" I'd say: "only if you behave" or " what's in it for me?" And then she'd offer to cook for me or give me an unforgetable night, or respond with " I'll behaaave, I'll behave! what time should I expect you?."

Thank you Jesus for the DJ knowledge!!!
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Have you ever actually tried this in an LTR?

Because this gets old and goofy after 2 weeks. Its too much effort to keep up playful and challenging replies every time. Rewarding when she does good things is the same thing. You need to ignore more than you reward or else it will get old for both of you fast.
 
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Have you ever actually tried this in an LTR?

Because this gets old and goofy after 2 weeks. Its too much effort to keep up playful and challenging replies every time. Rewarding when she does good things is the same thing. You need to ignore more than you reward or else it will get old for both of you fast.
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A lot of that guy's suggestions tend to be on the goofy side. Sounds a bit canned, doesn't it?
 
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Mantis Toboggan said:
A lot of that guy's suggestions tend to be on the goofy side. Sounds a bit canned, doesn't it?
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Isn't that the whole point of this, to have fun?
 
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Ease said:
Have you ever actually tried this in an LTR?

Because this gets old and goofy after 2 weeks. Its too much effort to keep up playful and challenging replies every time. Rewarding when she does good things is the same thing. You need to ignore more than you reward or else it will get old for both of you fast.
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It's not easy but it isn't rocket science. I did it for 2 1/2 years with my ex gf and it worked like a charm. You have to do it once in a while because if you do it too much it'll lose its value. They like it when you're different.

You can try kissing azz though and see how that goes for you, but this works great for me!
 
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