"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She wants to be exclusive?

djceta21

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So I've been talking to a girl recently, we've made out and everything. She's asked me a few times about "What we are" and whether we're just friends, but every time I sort of just brushed the question off like I don't want to answer it. She's even told my friends that she wants me to ask her out but she doesn't want to keep bringing up the topic.

Is this the hint she's dropping that she wants to be exclusive? I know guys are never supposed to ask, but in this case has she already indirectly asked?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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djceta21 said:
So I've been talking to a girl recently, we've made out and everything. She's asked me a few times about "What we are" and whether we're just friends, but every time I sort of just brushed the question off like I don't want to answer it. She's even told my friends that she wants me to ask her out but she doesn't want to keep bringing up the topic.

Is this the hint she's dropping that she wants to be exclusive? I know guys are never supposed to ask, but in this case has she already indirectly asked?
Just tell her, "Not everything needs a label. All I know is that I'm enjoying the time we share together and I have strong feelings for you. Anything else beyond that I do not know. I just know how I feel."
 

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She is indirectly asking you to ask her out. If you want to be exclusive with her just go ahead and make it official.
 

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Matthew Lyon said:
Just tell her, "Not everything needs a label. All I know is that I'm enjoying the time we share together and I have strong feelings for you. Anything else beyond that I do not know. I just know how I feel."
The first part is good, but I would stop with "I'm enjoying the time we share together". A man should avoid using the 'F' word (feelings).
 

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bigneil said:
The first part is good, but I would stop with "I'm enjoying the time we share together". A man should avoid using the 'F' word (feelings).
I can see where you're going with this. If you don't have much experience with women, then avoid using the feelings word. But if you're confident in yourself and don't say it in a needy or wussy way, nothing wrong with saying feelings. I've even told girls, "I'm enjoying the friend zone with you. I've had thoughts about taking things further but prefer to get to know you better." And that night or 2 days later we're sleeping together. And I say it with confidence and sincerity. So it doesn't matter so much what you say but how you say it. You can even buy her a drink if you just met her, pay for all dinners, and give her compliments, but it can't come from a place of neediness. That's just my experience. I'm very nice and elaborate with women. I even tell them how I used to be very insecure with women while out on dates with them, lol. They love it!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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