"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She wants to be exclusive?

djceta21

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So I've been talking to a girl recently, we've made out and everything. She's asked me a few times about "What we are" and whether we're just friends, but every time I sort of just brushed the question off like I don't want to answer it. She's even told my friends that she wants me to ask her out but she doesn't want to keep bringing up the topic.

Is this the hint she's dropping that she wants to be exclusive? I know guys are never supposed to ask, but in this case has she already indirectly asked?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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djceta21 said:
So I've been talking to a girl recently, we've made out and everything. She's asked me a few times about "What we are" and whether we're just friends, but every time I sort of just brushed the question off like I don't want to answer it. She's even told my friends that she wants me to ask her out but she doesn't want to keep bringing up the topic.

Is this the hint she's dropping that she wants to be exclusive? I know guys are never supposed to ask, but in this case has she already indirectly asked?
Just tell her, "Not everything needs a label. All I know is that I'm enjoying the time we share together and I have strong feelings for you. Anything else beyond that I do not know. I just know how I feel."
 

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She is indirectly asking you to ask her out. If you want to be exclusive with her just go ahead and make it official.
 

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Matthew Lyon said:
Just tell her, "Not everything needs a label. All I know is that I'm enjoying the time we share together and I have strong feelings for you. Anything else beyond that I do not know. I just know how I feel."
The first part is good, but I would stop with "I'm enjoying the time we share together". A man should avoid using the 'F' word (feelings).
 

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bigneil said:
The first part is good, but I would stop with "I'm enjoying the time we share together". A man should avoid using the 'F' word (feelings).
I can see where you're going with this. If you don't have much experience with women, then avoid using the feelings word. But if you're confident in yourself and don't say it in a needy or wussy way, nothing wrong with saying feelings. I've even told girls, "I'm enjoying the friend zone with you. I've had thoughts about taking things further but prefer to get to know you better." And that night or 2 days later we're sleeping together. And I say it with confidence and sincerity. So it doesn't matter so much what you say but how you say it. You can even buy her a drink if you just met her, pay for all dinners, and give her compliments, but it can't come from a place of neediness. That's just my experience. I'm very nice and elaborate with women. I even tell them how I used to be very insecure with women while out on dates with them, lol. They love it!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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