You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
bullshit.In Motion said:Its because of people like these that has gotten their America their idiot status.
And because of this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k0RH0cYs4lw
He was trying so hard not to laugh...the man has FOCUS, that's for sure!DJDamage said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Michele said:bullshit.
it's people going out and posting propaganda like that.
for some reason, people believe those small number of idiots (that appeared more than once in one video) represent 100% of americans.
i was on this teen forum trolling a bit and there was this guy from russia or the surrounding countries like that... who turned every topic into a american bash. he posted every single youtube video that he could find that had 4 people that he thought represented 100% of americans... to teenagers.
it's just propaganda.
i also saw two versions of a dog being shot by US soldiers in iraq. they both were the same video, except:
the first one had a dog being shot three times until it was killed... it made a yelping sound.
the second one had troops stopping to see what was wrong with a dog, it appeared to be wild/abandoned, and injured to the point it will die slowly. a soldier said they had to do something about it, so a different soldier shot it once and it didnt die... shot it again and it didn't die... and shot it till it was killed.
the first video was edited to make americans look bad.
there are stupid people EVERYWHERE. just like there are intelligent people everywhere. only the stupid people would believe such propaganda.
I said: its because of people LIKE this that America has gained their status from. I didnt say it was true, so no need to get you panties in a bunch.Michele said:bullshit.
it's people going out and posting propaganda like that.
for some reason, people believe those small number of idiots (that appeared more than once in one video) represent 100% of americans.
i was on this teen forum trolling a bit and there was this guy from russia or the surrounding countries like that... who turned every topic into a american bash. he posted every single youtube video that he could find that had 4 people that he thought represented 100% of americans... to teenagers.
it's just propaganda.
i also saw two versions of a dog being shot by US soldiers in iraq. they both were the same video, except:
the first one had a dog being shot three times until it was killed... it made a yelping sound.
the second one had troops stopping to see what was wrong with a dog, it appeared to be wild/abandoned, and injured to the point it will die slowly. a soldier said they had to do something about it, so a different soldier shot it once and it didnt die... shot it again and it didn't die... and shot it till it was killed.
the first video was edited to make americans look bad.
there are stupid people EVERYWHERE. just like there are intelligent people everywhere. only the stupid people would believe such propaganda.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I think a camel flew in and took it for its nest.MacAvoy said:Anyone see where my Igloo went?