AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
Just a chick I could possibly hook up with. Zero desire on my part for a ltr. Suggestions as to response? Would like to maintain her on the roster.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She texted me, "do you miss me?"
- Thread starter AllDay85
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
That's brilliant. Now if she asks what parts?jimmy18 said:
sylvester the cat
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never mind the lame ****y/funny. just arrange a date for the hook up ffs.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
She's like number ten on my list right now, won't have time to set anything up for at least a month, but want to keep her on the roster.sylvester the cat said:
sylvester the cat
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So keep up the tension and keep her waiting. Far more powerful than ****y/funny will ever be.AllDay85 said:
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
I am choosing to play the numbers game and keep my breadth expanded. As pook would say "go for many or none at all." Each individual presents its own set of challenges that I stand to learn from. Foresight is a better teacher then error.Espi said:
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Between_The_Lines
Master Don Juan
You're obviously doing something right if you've got ten lined up. It's understandable, wanting to get advice for more specific situations, but you have TEN GIRLS to field test material on. It makes much more sense to work on changing your frame than popping in here once a day to ask how to respond to this or how to proceed from that. Say you want to become a "player" (although I'd say you already qualify by most definitions, but I digress) - ask yourself, how would a smooth, devil-may-care kind of dude reply to X? Reply to Y? Reply to Z? Get the PERSONA down, and the more specific details will work themselves out.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
"Who is this?"
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
"Maybe"
MOTU
Master Don Juan
Haha +1Atom Smasher said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Donaldinho
Don Juan
No contact. Get back at her when you have time to set up a date.
Daniel_March
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For a guy spinning 10 plates you are waaaay too involved.
Just write anything, if the chick really wants you she will suck anything up!!!
Just write anything, if the chick really wants you she will suck anything up!!!
Trailboss
Don Juan
Yea...He's got "10" waiting all right....10 FINGERS! Say hello to Rosey Palm...LoL
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.