AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
Just a chick I could possibly hook up with. Zero desire on my part for a ltr. Suggestions as to response? Would like to maintain her on the roster.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She texted me, "do you miss me?"
- Thread starter AllDay85
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
That's brilliant. Now if she asks what parts?jimmy18 said:
sylvester the cat
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never mind the lame ****y/funny. just arrange a date for the hook up ffs.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
She's like number ten on my list right now, won't have time to set anything up for at least a month, but want to keep her on the roster.sylvester the cat said:
sylvester the cat
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So keep up the tension and keep her waiting. Far more powerful than ****y/funny will ever be.AllDay85 said:
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
I am choosing to play the numbers game and keep my breadth expanded. As pook would say "go for many or none at all." Each individual presents its own set of challenges that I stand to learn from. Foresight is a better teacher then error.Espi said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Between_The_Lines
Master Don Juan
You're obviously doing something right if you've got ten lined up. It's understandable, wanting to get advice for more specific situations, but you have TEN GIRLS to field test material on. It makes much more sense to work on changing your frame than popping in here once a day to ask how to respond to this or how to proceed from that. Say you want to become a "player" (although I'd say you already qualify by most definitions, but I digress) - ask yourself, how would a smooth, devil-may-care kind of dude reply to X? Reply to Y? Reply to Z? Get the PERSONA down, and the more specific details will work themselves out.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
"Who is this?"
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
"Maybe"
MOTU
Master Don Juan
Haha +1Atom Smasher said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Donaldinho
Don Juan
No contact. Get back at her when you have time to set up a date.
Daniel_March
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For a guy spinning 10 plates you are waaaay too involved.
Just write anything, if the chick really wants you she will suck anything up!!!
Just write anything, if the chick really wants you she will suck anything up!!!
Trailboss
Don Juan
Yea...He's got "10" waiting all right....10 FINGERS! Say hello to Rosey Palm...LoL
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.