AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
Just a chick I could possibly hook up with. Zero desire on my part for a ltr. Suggestions as to response? Would like to maintain her on the roster.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She texted me, "do you miss me?"
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
That's brilliant. Now if she asks what parts?jimmy18 said:
sylvester the cat
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never mind the lame ****y/funny. just arrange a date for the hook up ffs.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
She's like number ten on my list right now, won't have time to set anything up for at least a month, but want to keep her on the roster.sylvester the cat said:
sylvester the cat
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So keep up the tension and keep her waiting. Far more powerful than ****y/funny will ever be.AllDay85 said:
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
I am choosing to play the numbers game and keep my breadth expanded. As pook would say "go for many or none at all." Each individual presents its own set of challenges that I stand to learn from. Foresight is a better teacher then error.Espi said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Between_The_Lines
Master Don Juan
You're obviously doing something right if you've got ten lined up. It's understandable, wanting to get advice for more specific situations, but you have TEN GIRLS to field test material on. It makes much more sense to work on changing your frame than popping in here once a day to ask how to respond to this or how to proceed from that. Say you want to become a "player" (although I'd say you already qualify by most definitions, but I digress) - ask yourself, how would a smooth, devil-may-care kind of dude reply to X? Reply to Y? Reply to Z? Get the PERSONA down, and the more specific details will work themselves out.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
"Who is this?"
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
"Maybe"
MOTU
Master Don Juan
Haha +1Atom Smasher said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Donaldinho
Don Juan
No contact. Get back at her when you have time to set up a date.
Daniel_March
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For a guy spinning 10 plates you are waaaay too involved.
Just write anything, if the chick really wants you she will suck anything up!!!
Just write anything, if the chick really wants you she will suck anything up!!!
Trailboss
Don Juan
Yea...He's got "10" waiting all right....10 FINGERS! Say hello to Rosey Palm...LoL
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.