AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
Just a chick I could possibly hook up with. Zero desire on my part for a ltr. Suggestions as to response? Would like to maintain her on the roster.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She texted me, "do you miss me?"
- Thread starter AllDay85
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
That's brilliant. Now if she asks what parts?jimmy18 said:
sylvester the cat
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never mind the lame ****y/funny. just arrange a date for the hook up ffs.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
She's like number ten on my list right now, won't have time to set anything up for at least a month, but want to keep her on the roster.sylvester the cat said:
sylvester the cat
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So keep up the tension and keep her waiting. Far more powerful than ****y/funny will ever be.AllDay85 said:
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
I am choosing to play the numbers game and keep my breadth expanded. As pook would say "go for many or none at all." Each individual presents its own set of challenges that I stand to learn from. Foresight is a better teacher then error.Espi said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Between_The_Lines
Master Don Juan
You're obviously doing something right if you've got ten lined up. It's understandable, wanting to get advice for more specific situations, but you have TEN GIRLS to field test material on. It makes much more sense to work on changing your frame than popping in here once a day to ask how to respond to this or how to proceed from that. Say you want to become a "player" (although I'd say you already qualify by most definitions, but I digress) - ask yourself, how would a smooth, devil-may-care kind of dude reply to X? Reply to Y? Reply to Z? Get the PERSONA down, and the more specific details will work themselves out.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
"Who is this?"
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
"Maybe"
MOTU
Master Don Juan
Haha +1Atom Smasher said:
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Donaldinho
Don Juan
No contact. Get back at her when you have time to set up a date.
Daniel_March
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For a guy spinning 10 plates you are waaaay too involved.
Just write anything, if the chick really wants you she will suck anything up!!!
Just write anything, if the chick really wants you she will suck anything up!!!
Trailboss
Don Juan
Yea...He's got "10" waiting all right....10 FINGERS! Say hello to Rosey Palm...LoL
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.