After repeated push and pulls from her, it seems she started to pursue me, I completely stopped chasing her and I was less available and more indifferent. I haven't initiated any contact (even if I'm struggling) and I'm trying to send the message that I'm losing interest to wake her up. Now she sends me txts (some 1-2 every 2-3 days with "x" and stuff like that) and asks me to let her know when I'm available (it will happen in days). What shall I do during the time between today and next saturday when I've got already a date set up? I don't want her to lose interests but she let me down too many times in the past and I can't read her.
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
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she started to lightly purse me.. how to keep interest high
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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This happens when you fail to NEXT.joker79 said:
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She's just trying to reel you back in. Once you start showing interest again, she will pull back. It's a game you can't win.joker79 said:
if we want to look at it from a different perspective: I've got this date set up at mine next saturday. It's the last opportunity I give myself to change my idea about her (-> she's playing games and uses me just as a ego booster). If she's able to change my mind, good; if not, good for me anyway. I am not sure that any kind of actions between now and next saturday is gonna have any effect and that's where this thread come from.
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whats the chances she flakes on next sat?
don't know really, think 40%, but a flake will be the indicator that I need to write her off. I told her firmly that I think she's playing games (she denied obviously) so a flake or any excuse would give me the reason to walk away, I think she's aware of it. The ball is in her court
What's with all the analysing here.
Boys, you are making my head spin. Percentages, flaking and nesting? This is all in over my head.
Girls don't need to be analysed.
Strike up some sexual conversation and see how she reacts.
Boys, you are making my head spin. Percentages, flaking and nesting? This is all in over my head.
Girls don't need to be analysed.
Strike up some sexual conversation and see how she reacts.