After repeated push and pulls from her, it seems she started to pursue me, I completely stopped chasing her and I was less available and more indifferent. I haven't initiated any contact (even if I'm struggling) and I'm trying to send the message that I'm losing interest to wake her up. Now she sends me txts (some 1-2 every 2-3 days with "x" and stuff like that) and asks me to let her know when I'm available (it will happen in days). What shall I do during the time between today and next saturday when I've got already a date set up? I don't want her to lose interests but she let me down too many times in the past and I can't read her.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
she started to lightly purse me.. how to keep interest high
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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This happens when you fail to NEXT.joker79 said:
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She's just trying to reel you back in. Once you start showing interest again, she will pull back. It's a game you can't win.joker79 said:
if we want to look at it from a different perspective: I've got this date set up at mine next saturday. It's the last opportunity I give myself to change my idea about her (-> she's playing games and uses me just as a ego booster). If she's able to change my mind, good; if not, good for me anyway. I am not sure that any kind of actions between now and next saturday is gonna have any effect and that's where this thread come from.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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whats the chances she flakes on next sat?
don't know really, think 40%, but a flake will be the indicator that I need to write her off. I told her firmly that I think she's playing games (she denied obviously) so a flake or any excuse would give me the reason to walk away, I think she's aware of it. The ball is in her court
What's with all the analysing here.
Boys, you are making my head spin. Percentages, flaking and nesting? This is all in over my head.
Girls don't need to be analysed.
Strike up some sexual conversation and see how she reacts.
Boys, you are making my head spin. Percentages, flaking and nesting? This is all in over my head.
Girls don't need to be analysed.
Strike up some sexual conversation and see how she reacts.