After repeated push and pulls from her, it seems she started to pursue me, I completely stopped chasing her and I was less available and more indifferent. I haven't initiated any contact (even if I'm struggling) and I'm trying to send the message that I'm losing interest to wake her up. Now she sends me txts (some 1-2 every 2-3 days with "x" and stuff like that) and asks me to let her know when I'm available (it will happen in days). What shall I do during the time between today and next saturday when I've got already a date set up? I don't want her to lose interests but she let me down too many times in the past and I can't read her.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
she started to lightly purse me.. how to keep interest high
- Thread starter joker79
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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This happens when you fail to NEXT.joker79 said:
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She's just trying to reel you back in. Once you start showing interest again, she will pull back. It's a game you can't win.joker79 said:
if we want to look at it from a different perspective: I've got this date set up at mine next saturday. It's the last opportunity I give myself to change my idea about her (-> she's playing games and uses me just as a ego booster). If she's able to change my mind, good; if not, good for me anyway. I am not sure that any kind of actions between now and next saturday is gonna have any effect and that's where this thread come from.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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whats the chances she flakes on next sat?
don't know really, think 40%, but a flake will be the indicator that I need to write her off. I told her firmly that I think she's playing games (she denied obviously) so a flake or any excuse would give me the reason to walk away, I think she's aware of it. The ball is in her court
What's with all the analysing here.
Boys, you are making my head spin. Percentages, flaking and nesting? This is all in over my head.
Girls don't need to be analysed.
Strike up some sexual conversation and see how she reacts.
Boys, you are making my head spin. Percentages, flaking and nesting? This is all in over my head.
Girls don't need to be analysed.
Strike up some sexual conversation and see how she reacts.