"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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she started to lightly purse me.. how to keep interest high

joker79

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After repeated push and pulls from her, it seems she started to pursue me, I completely stopped chasing her and I was less available and more indifferent. I haven't initiated any contact (even if I'm struggling) and I'm trying to send the message that I'm losing interest to wake her up. Now she sends me txts (some 1-2 every 2-3 days with "x" and stuff like that) and asks me to let her know when I'm available (it will happen in days). What shall I do during the time between today and next saturday when I've got already a date set up? I don't want her to lose interests but she let me down too many times in the past and I can't read her.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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joker79 said:
I don't want her to lose interests but she let me down too many times in the past and I can't read her.
This happens when you fail to NEXT.
 

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@BeginningDJ: ok but this doesn't solve my problem
 

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joker79 said:
@BeginningDJ: ok but this doesn't solve my problem
She's just trying to reel you back in. Once you start showing interest again, she will pull back. It's a game you can't win.
 

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if we want to look at it from a different perspective: I've got this date set up at mine next saturday. It's the last opportunity I give myself to change my idea about her (-> she's playing games and uses me just as a ego booster). If she's able to change my mind, good; if not, good for me anyway. I am not sure that any kind of actions between now and next saturday is gonna have any effect and that's where this thread come from.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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don't know really, think 40%, but a flake will be the indicator that I need to write her off. I told her firmly that I think she's playing games (she denied obviously) so a flake or any excuse would give me the reason to walk away, I think she's aware of it. The ball is in her court
 

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What's with all the analysing here.
Boys, you are making my head spin. Percentages, flaking and nesting? This is all in over my head.
Girls don't need to be analysed.
Strike up some sexual conversation and see how she reacts.
 
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