2 dates in and I realized this was going nowhere, for which I take full responsibility. Typically if nothing happens by then for me, I cut them off. So with this girl, I told her to holler at me later. She said "I assumed we were friends.". I guess that's due to lack of escalation on my part, right?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She says she assumed we were friends
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
marmel75
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Remember this always:
"A women is more likely to forgive you for acting like a man and attempting to go for it than for acting like a scared little boy"
Basically you are no longer a viable romantic option anymore. Move on and don't make the same mistake again.
Know who women love as friends? Gay men.
You know why? Because they know they are harmless to them sexually. Don't act like a gay man around a woman you are interested in.
"A women is more likely to forgive you for acting like a man and attempting to go for it than for acting like a scared little boy"
Basically you are no longer a viable romantic option anymore. Move on and don't make the same mistake again.
Know who women love as friends? Gay men.
You know why? Because they know they are harmless to them sexually. Don't act like a gay man around a woman you are interested in.
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WC2
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'Typically if nothing happens by then for me..'
I'm not really sure what you mean by this. Things will not 'just happen' with a woman. You seduce her, make the move, and make things happen on your own.
If you're waiting in line to see if she'll pull a move, then she's bound to be plucked by another.
I don't have any details about your dates, but it seems to me like you gave her no reason to think of you other than a friend.
And she told you so.
I'm not really sure what you mean by this. Things will not 'just happen' with a woman. You seduce her, make the move, and make things happen on your own.
If you're waiting in line to see if she'll pull a move, then she's bound to be plucked by another.
I don't have any details about your dates, but it seems to me like you gave her no reason to think of you other than a friend.
And she told you so.
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teddy said:
You expect her to think you two were more than friends when you never said or did anything sexual?
Well if you had 2 dates with her and NEVER made a move,then what reason would she have for thinking otherwise?
What did you even bother asking her out in the first place for?
Like "Mikey2012" said...."If you act like a pvssy..you wont get ANY".
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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How you start with a b**ch is how you will finish with a b**ch. You acted like a gay friend, so there. Surprised your princess is in another castle? I'm not. I took her into chambers because I was sexually escalating with her without fear. Either she bailed or banged. She banged.
Case closed. Get out of my court so I can bang your friend again.
Case closed. Get out of my court so I can bang your friend again.