foomee
Senior Don Juan
After having sex this girl tells me, "i think that was a bad idea..." Anyways, wth is that supposed to mean? We're very good friends so that may be it. What other reasons might she say that?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
she says "i think that was a bad idea" after having sex
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
blackbelt2k
Senior Don Juan
why do you care what she thinks? If you enjoyed it, reply "I disagree, i had a lot of fun".. Its about YOU, not her
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
The dynamic of your relationship has changed and she is unsure about where you two stand in regards to how she feels about you.
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BURN.
But seriously, who cares? They're just words. Remember, actions speak louder than words. I'm starting to learn to tune out pretty much all that bull****.
But seriously, who cares? They're just words. Remember, actions speak louder than words. I'm starting to learn to tune out pretty much all that bull****.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
I agree. Or the sex wasn't good?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
Could be buyers remorse
or
Could be the sex was bad for her
Let us hope for your sake it was because she had buyers remorse
or
Could be the sex was bad for her
Let us hope for your sake it was because she had buyers remorse
foomee
Senior Don Juan
She just texted me saying, "our little secret right? i feel kinda bad"
I say..."Pinky promise. But why do you feel bad?"
She says..."idk. denise. and just other stuff. u don't feel bad?"
denise is my ex, who last semester was this girl's suitemate.
although denise hooked up with my suitemate a few weeks after we broke up.
so it kinda all works out.
I say..."Pinky promise. But why do you feel bad?"
She says..."idk. denise. and just other stuff. u don't feel bad?"
denise is my ex, who last semester was this girl's suitemate.
although denise hooked up with my suitemate a few weeks after we broke up.
so it kinda all works out.
blackbelt2k
Senior Don Juan
I think u just won today's award for the gayest text... 'pinky promise'...wtf?? just be straight with the chick... tell her you liked the way she tossed and turned, and you don't mind making her feel oohh soo good again.
Its often just another ASD, anti-slut defense - if i'm remembering the term correctly. They're afraid that if they don't say something like that, then they will come across as a hor.
So don't sweat it. They want to still be "good girls" so let them play their mind tricks with themselves. Its part of the justification process, you see.
So don't sweat it. They want to still be "good girls" so let them play their mind tricks with themselves. Its part of the justification process, you see.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I just would have texted "Oh, should I remove the video from YouTube?"
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
usually it means she just got the worst of both worlds. A woman would have sex with the pope if it was good, bedpost clintching toe curling sex.
now, she just had bad sex with a guy she can't no longer be friends with.
now, she just had bad sex with a guy she can't no longer be friends with.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Buyer's remorse.
I agree it's "buyer's remorse" or "anti-slvt defence", maybe mixed with some good old attention seeking. She gave it up too easily, now she wants you to make her feel valuable and chase after her.
I've been in a similar situation many times with female friends throwing themselves at me, then backing off the next day. At one time I always made the mistake of playing into their drama, chasing after them and trying to prove that it meant something to me.
Then I learned the right way to handle it...
Whenever a female friend tells me she regrets something she did with me, I play it cool and indifferent. I.e. "I don't remember much about what happened, but hope we can still be friends" or "No big deal. Let's pretend it never happened."
She'll probably get angry or uptight, but that's good...it's an emotional reaction. It's also a sign of frustration because she can't control you like she expected.
Whatever you do, don't give anything away about how you felt about it. If she asks, tell her "Let's not talk about it" or "Let's just put it in the past now." In my experience, this will drive her crazy and she won't stop thinking about you!
This will also work btw. Show's you aren't being that serious about it.
I've been in a similar situation many times with female friends throwing themselves at me, then backing off the next day. At one time I always made the mistake of playing into their drama, chasing after them and trying to prove that it meant something to me.
Then I learned the right way to handle it...
Whenever a female friend tells me she regrets something she did with me, I play it cool and indifferent. I.e. "I don't remember much about what happened, but hope we can still be friends" or "No big deal. Let's pretend it never happened."
She'll probably get angry or uptight, but that's good...it's an emotional reaction. It's also a sign of frustration because she can't control you like she expected.
Whatever you do, don't give anything away about how you felt about it. If she asks, tell her "Let's not talk about it" or "Let's just put it in the past now." In my experience, this will drive her crazy and she won't stop thinking about you!
Nice one! :crackup:Francisco d'Anconia said:
This will also work btw. Show's you aren't being that serious about it.
It's b/c like you said you are 'good friends'. To us guys we can have sex with girls who are friends and it's no big deal. But to girls, they put all there relationships into little neat boxes. Over here there's this guy who's potentially a boyfriend, here's the guy or 2 that she hangs out with every now and then, and then over here there's this guy or 2 that she cries to when she has a problem (he is like a brother). I know several girls who say I'm like a brother to them. For the most part its cool I'm not interested in them so it works out fine. If they have sex with someone in the "brother" category now he's different, he's changed and she feels she will never have it like it was before. To you its probly just getting your rocks off and nothing more. To her its a relationship changing event because now you're possibly in a new "box".
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
I've had three ways with girls who've considered me a "good friend" and there's no such thing as ASD. A girl will fukk under optimal conditions whether her sorrority sisters are there video taping it or not, you just have to be the right guy at the right time.