foomee
Senior Don Juan
After having sex this girl tells me, "i think that was a bad idea..." Anyways, wth is that supposed to mean? We're very good friends so that may be it. What other reasons might she say that?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
she says "i think that was a bad idea" after having sex
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
blackbelt2k
Senior Don Juan
why do you care what she thinks? If you enjoyed it, reply "I disagree, i had a lot of fun".. Its about YOU, not her
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
The dynamic of your relationship has changed and she is unsure about where you two stand in regards to how she feels about you.
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BURN.
But seriously, who cares? They're just words. Remember, actions speak louder than words. I'm starting to learn to tune out pretty much all that bull****.
But seriously, who cares? They're just words. Remember, actions speak louder than words. I'm starting to learn to tune out pretty much all that bull****.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
I agree. Or the sex wasn't good?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
Could be buyers remorse
or
Could be the sex was bad for her
Let us hope for your sake it was because she had buyers remorse
or
Could be the sex was bad for her
Let us hope for your sake it was because she had buyers remorse
foomee
Senior Don Juan
She just texted me saying, "our little secret right? i feel kinda bad"
I say..."Pinky promise. But why do you feel bad?"
She says..."idk. denise. and just other stuff. u don't feel bad?"
denise is my ex, who last semester was this girl's suitemate.
although denise hooked up with my suitemate a few weeks after we broke up.
so it kinda all works out.
I say..."Pinky promise. But why do you feel bad?"
She says..."idk. denise. and just other stuff. u don't feel bad?"
denise is my ex, who last semester was this girl's suitemate.
although denise hooked up with my suitemate a few weeks after we broke up.
so it kinda all works out.
blackbelt2k
Senior Don Juan
I think u just won today's award for the gayest text... 'pinky promise'...wtf?? just be straight with the chick... tell her you liked the way she tossed and turned, and you don't mind making her feel oohh soo good again.
Its often just another ASD, anti-slut defense - if i'm remembering the term correctly. They're afraid that if they don't say something like that, then they will come across as a hor.
So don't sweat it. They want to still be "good girls" so let them play their mind tricks with themselves. Its part of the justification process, you see.
So don't sweat it. They want to still be "good girls" so let them play their mind tricks with themselves. Its part of the justification process, you see.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I just would have texted "Oh, should I remove the video from YouTube?"
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
usually it means she just got the worst of both worlds. A woman would have sex with the pope if it was good, bedpost clintching toe curling sex.
now, she just had bad sex with a guy she can't no longer be friends with.
now, she just had bad sex with a guy she can't no longer be friends with.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Buyer's remorse.
I agree it's "buyer's remorse" or "anti-slvt defence", maybe mixed with some good old attention seeking. She gave it up too easily, now she wants you to make her feel valuable and chase after her.
I've been in a similar situation many times with female friends throwing themselves at me, then backing off the next day. At one time I always made the mistake of playing into their drama, chasing after them and trying to prove that it meant something to me.
Then I learned the right way to handle it...
Whenever a female friend tells me she regrets something she did with me, I play it cool and indifferent. I.e. "I don't remember much about what happened, but hope we can still be friends" or "No big deal. Let's pretend it never happened."
She'll probably get angry or uptight, but that's good...it's an emotional reaction. It's also a sign of frustration because she can't control you like she expected.
Whatever you do, don't give anything away about how you felt about it. If she asks, tell her "Let's not talk about it" or "Let's just put it in the past now." In my experience, this will drive her crazy and she won't stop thinking about you!
This will also work btw. Show's you aren't being that serious about it.
I've been in a similar situation many times with female friends throwing themselves at me, then backing off the next day. At one time I always made the mistake of playing into their drama, chasing after them and trying to prove that it meant something to me.
Then I learned the right way to handle it...
Whenever a female friend tells me she regrets something she did with me, I play it cool and indifferent. I.e. "I don't remember much about what happened, but hope we can still be friends" or "No big deal. Let's pretend it never happened."
She'll probably get angry or uptight, but that's good...it's an emotional reaction. It's also a sign of frustration because she can't control you like she expected.
Whatever you do, don't give anything away about how you felt about it. If she asks, tell her "Let's not talk about it" or "Let's just put it in the past now." In my experience, this will drive her crazy and she won't stop thinking about you!
Nice one! :crackup:Francisco d'Anconia said:
This will also work btw. Show's you aren't being that serious about it.
It's b/c like you said you are 'good friends'. To us guys we can have sex with girls who are friends and it's no big deal. But to girls, they put all there relationships into little neat boxes. Over here there's this guy who's potentially a boyfriend, here's the guy or 2 that she hangs out with every now and then, and then over here there's this guy or 2 that she cries to when she has a problem (he is like a brother). I know several girls who say I'm like a brother to them. For the most part its cool I'm not interested in them so it works out fine. If they have sex with someone in the "brother" category now he's different, he's changed and she feels she will never have it like it was before. To you its probly just getting your rocks off and nothing more. To her its a relationship changing event because now you're possibly in a new "box".
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
I've had three ways with girls who've considered me a "good friend" and there's no such thing as ASD. A girl will fukk under optimal conditions whether her sorrority sisters are there video taping it or not, you just have to be the right guy at the right time.